‘Mere Wishes’ – A friend’s Note to All Singles
We all wish for certain things in our lives whether that is something tangible or intangible. Growing up, I remember my dad used this quote a lot "if wishes were horses, beggars would ride." This was his way of telling us to get up and do something about an issue...
Grace, Given and not Earned
Grace, Given and not Earned. As I sat on a bench at a station platform on a cold Wednesday morning earlier this month, waiting for my train to arrive, I reached for a copy of the daily metro newspaper which a lady had left behind as she got up to get her train. I...
Parenting in the 21st Century
As a parent to 2 children of ages 10 & 11 respectively, I have come to appreciate raising kids and the many sacrifices that parents have to make. On the other hand, I am also privileged to have experienced some of the rewards of being a parent. The fact that you...
T.R.U.S.T
It is a known fact that successful relationships are built on the foundation of trust; trust between husband and wife, parents and children, siblings, friends, relations, church leaders and their followers, political leaders and the masses and the list goes on and on....
Creating and maintaining peace in your marriage
Creating and maintaining peace in your marriage If it was possible for anyone to buy peace upfront so that they can be guaranteed of it in their marriage and life, I am sure most people would be interested to know how and where to buy it. I would also be interested...
Working as a Team in Marriage
Working as a Team in Marriage It is highly unlikely that any of us reading this journal will find the concept of team working strange. We all are familiar with the concept either in the board room, in relation to working with colleagues or subordinates, at school or...
Making Time for One Another
According to the Coughlin's, a stressed - out, so-busy-I-can't-find-my-purse lifestyle often direly lacks intimacy. There's no substitute for time together with your spouse. If you can't remember the last time you shared hysterical laughter, you are in desperate need...
Conflict
How many times have we heard the word conflict and frozen with all sorts of ideas going on in our minds? Thoughts such as, he is going to leave me or we are breaking up start to plague our thoughts and minds. We are quick to think that the presence of a problem or...
The Big Picture
Having a big picture mindset means to be able to see all sides of an issue and the broader context in which things take place. The Merriam Webster dictionary defines the big picture as the entire perspective on a situation or issue. It is everything that relates to or...
Togetherness
The noun word "togetherness" is a condition of being together. It is defined as warm fellowship and a feeling of closeness or affection from being united with other people. Togetherness is not the same as proximity as it has to do with focused attention. In fact,...
Hold on and Wait!
Our generation is obsessed with prompt solutions and quick fixes. That manager is getting on your nerves, you change jobs. You and your spouse can’t seem to agree on anything and are constantly fighting, you file for a divorce, your church won’t acknowledge your gifts...
Commitment
Now honestly, how many people during courting situations and weddings promise love and affection to someone, only to break their promise? Perhaps, it could be summed up in one statement; they did not really understand what commitment is. I like the way the dictionary...
Regret
What I should have done, could have done, may have done or better still what I shouldn't have done. Ever recognise when you've thought or felt this way? These are all expressions of regrets. There is no such thing as a life without regrets. However regrets can become...
The Act of Forgiveness
As you are aware, to forgive is to pardon an offence or an offender and forgiveness is disposition or willingness to forgive. Forgiveness is an act and a state of being forgiven. Act of forgiveness is therefore the process of forgiveness or the deed of forgiveness. I...
A Father
The record shows how essential men are to children and to society in general. The largest predictive factor in whether a child will graduate from high school, attend college, avoid crime, reject drugs, or become an unwed parent before eighteen is the presence of a...
Unity
My name is Unity and the dictionary defines me as: "the state of being one, a whole or totality as combining all its parts into one. It also defines me as the absence of diversity; unvaried or uniform character, oneness of mind, feeling, etc., as among a number of...
Fear
"Perfect love casts out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. He that fears has not been made perfect in love" What is fear? I like the definition that has been used for the acronym "FEAR” and I am sure you must have come across it too (False Evidence...